Welcome to Vee’s World

First of all, holy cow! I’m blogging! Lol.

If you are one of my longtime friends or my sister (heyyyyy bitch 👋), you’ll know that putting myself out there to the world is SO unlike me. For the longest time, I’ve been a pretty private person. More so about my journey through infertility. Because of guilt? Shame? Or maybe because I’ve felt so alone on this long journey of love and loss.

But I grew tired of feeling alone. And I know there are other women out there just like me who feel alone. And I’m here to help make you feel less alone. I wouldn’t dare say I know how you feel. We all process our infertility journeys differently. But I’m hoping with this blog, I can foster a sense of community – and if anything, make YOU feel like you’re not alone in this.

So let’s get into it. Or into me.

(But not like that. Get your mind out of the gutter!)

What I meant to say was… here’s a little bit about myself before we get deep into the nitty gritty!

We’re going wayyyyy back, so hang in there with me for a moment.

A Star Was Born (Self-Proclaimed But IDC 💅)

I was born in Hayward, California to parents who were born and raised in Mexico. We moved to Nevada when I was about five or six-years-old, and I’ve lived here ever since. I have a younger sister, Sabrina, who is nine years younger than I am. 

And that’s where my fertility struggles began. My mom and my dad struggled to have a second baby after having me, and had to resort to artificial insemination. Because you’re here and reading about fertility, you know that I’m referring to IUI (intrauterine insemination). (But if you didn’t know, now you know!) 

I, too, went through the IUI processes with my husband Jason, but I’ll get into that if you stick around. 🙏

My Boo (aka My Unofficial Husband)

Speaking of Jason, we met in 2016. On Tinder. Yes, that’s right! We met online. He could’ve been a serial killer. But lucky for me, he isn’t and we’ve been together ever since! 

We had our ups and downs, and there were times when I didn’t know how we could get through it. But we’ve grown together and been through some shit, so he’s not going anywhere! (Not that I would allow it. 😈) 

I should mention we’re not actually married. But I will refer to him as my husband as he calls me his wife. But we have not been legally married. Anyway, we’ve had a total of 3 fur babies and a squirmy wormy. If you haven’t already read my About Me page, first of all I recommend it. Second of all, here’s a little bit more!

Our Fur Babies (Plus a Linguini)

Our first fur baby was Milo. We got him shortly after moving in together. He was born February 25th, 2018. He is the sweetest, biggest pug I’ve ever seen, and a big ol’ mama’s boy! He’s the chonky monkey of the family and eats diet food (poor guy!)

He’s just big boned, and to be fair, he’s taller than the average pug. Don’t judge him, he’s sensitive!

Our second fur baby was JuJu! We got him about six months after bringing Milo home because he needed a buddy. He was born October 3rd, 2018. Unfortunately we only had him for five years before our baby crossed the rainbow bridge. 

He was diagnosed with lymphoma around June 2023. He was receiving chemotherapy treatments every 3 weeks for a few months until his body stopped responding to it. We got the unfortunate news just days after his fifth birthday. 

We had a vet come do a quality-of-life visit, and he passed peacefully at home on October 18th, 2023. Before I start bawling, let me just say he was the sweetest, most playful, loving boy, and we are thankful that we were able to give him the best life possible!

The day we found out JuJu was no longer taking to his treatments, we decided to go to the pet store and get him some of his favorite treats. Little did we know we would be bringing home a new family member that day.. 

Jason had been eyeballing a cute little snake they had there for a few months. That day we said, “What the hell!” No one else was taking him home, so we’d be his new parents. And thus, Nagini Linguini came home! Our first little one that didn’t have 4 legs – or any legs for that matter. 

But just look how cute his little noodle head is!

And finally, The Tweaker – I mean, the youngest of the crew: Eugene! 

Aka Eugenie Weenie. Aka Eugetus Cletus. Aka Cletus. 

He came home with us on the 2nd of December, just one day after we had moved into our new home. And when I say we done messed up A-A-Ron, I mean we done messed UP A-A-Ron!! 

Have you ever raised a German Shepherd puppy while working from home?! I’m surprised I still have my sanity because this boy came to me to test my patience. I’m sure of it! 

He’s got the biggest sass and attitude. And if you’ve never seen a dog talk back, you should just point your finger right at Eugene’s face and tell him “No.” But goodness can he be a cuddle bug! 

I’m not super religious or anything. But sometimes I wonder if he’s JuJu resurrected since Eugene was born October 20th, 2023 – only 2 days after JuJu’s passing. And then I think, “JuJu was never THAT sassy,” but who knows!

The Journey Continues…

So anyway, that’s a little peek into my world. We’re still working on an actual human baby. It’s been a hell of a journey so far, but we’re not done yet. 

I love writing. I had actually started writing about everything we’ve been through in the process of trying for a baby. It started off as a journal just for me to let it out in a way I felt comfortable doing so. I even thought about turning it into a book (stay tuned!)

But when I talked to a couple of friends and realized how sharing my journey could help other women like myself, I decided I would share it. If I could actually make a difference, even in just one person, it would be worth it.

Thanks for reading and making it this far. I appreciate you more than you know. <3