This letter is to all the mamas out there and the women who want to, and are trying to be, moms.
I see you, all of you.
To the Mama Who Watches Her Kid(s) Grow
Please don’t take a single moment for granted.
There may be times when you feel overwhelmed and defeated, but give yourself a pat on the back for doing your best.
Is your baby clothed?
Are they fed?
Good!
Now, I want you to take a deep breath, hydrate, and let go of all that tension in your body (even if it’s just for a moment).
Maybe you don’t have time to pick up the toys, wash the dishes, or take out the trash. But that doesn’t make you any less of a good mom…or person for that matter.
Hug and kiss your kids (if they’ll let you), appreciate every second (even those that aren’t so peaceful), and give yourself grace.
Many women out there don’t get that chance.
To the Angel Baby Mama
Your pain and heartbreak are, and always will be, completely valid.
You’re still a mom. No matter how much time you did (or didn’t) have with your baby.
I made the mistake of bottling my grief for the longest time.
When I finally started therapy and found healthy ways to cope with my feelings, I had already lost three pregnancies.
If you decide therapy isn’t for you, that’s totally okay. There are other ways that can help you get through the hard days.
(Peep my post Even Baddies Get the Saddies to check out some of the ways I like to take care of myself and my mental health. Maybe it’ll give you some ideas!)
As always, remember you are not alone in this.
If you need a friend to talk to, I will be here to listen. Even if we don’t know each other.
You got a friend in me. 😘
To the Woman Trying to Be a Mama
When you’re riding the struggle bus of trying to conceive, every pregnant woman you see is a potential trigger.
Not to mention that feeling when you’re struggling to get pregnant, everyone around you is celebrating with pregnancy and birth announcements.
It’s all you can see, everywhere you look.
I won’t hit you with “Your time will come”, “Just be patient and trust the process”, or “Everything happens for a reason”.
When I hear stuff like that, I can’t help but hear Dr. Phil’s voice in my mind saying “Shut the hell up, bitch”.
Anyone else, or just me? 😅
Maybe our time will come. Maybe it never will. But promise me something?
Try not to hold any animosity towards those who truly care about you. They mean well when they do say things like this.
Chances are, they have no clue what it feels like to go through something like this, and they just want to help.
To the Mamas with Fur Babies
Give those babies treats, boops, and loves from me, please.
I’ve never had the pleasure of raising a toddler, so I can’t compare it, but as a dog mom, I will say this…
Puppers can put a lot of stress on you.
Sometimes they don’t listen and you have to chase them around the backyard yelling, “Eugene, come here! What is in your mouth?!”
Sometimes, they wake you up in the middle of the night and you have to rush to get them off the bed because you hear those gawd awful sounds they make right before they’re about to throw up.
Yeah, you know the ones! 🤢
But at the end of the day, they’re still our babies and we would do anything to keep them safe and happy.
To Everyone Reading This
If none of these sections relate to you and you got this far, thank you for sticking around.
Regardless of who you are, you’re doing an awesome job.
Life will always have its shitty moments, but I promise you can get through them. Finding the strength might not be easy, but it’s not impossible.
Just remember these words…
You’re a baddie, and I LOVE YOU! 💞
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️