Even Baddies Get the Saddies

My last post was emotional, to say the very least, and it put me in a weird head space.

I planned on giving you a post that was a bit on the funnier side or about another topic of my life. I also planned on writing this sooner, but I couldn’t find the motivation to write, regardless of the topic.

I’ve also been MIA from Instagram.

(And if you don’t follow me, what the heck are you even doing? Click that link → @Vees.Journey)

I’m not super proud of that. At first, I felt guilty that I wasn’t keeping everyone up to date.

But after some reassurance and time, I realized I needed that break for myself and my mental health – something I’ve been prioritizing a lot lately (and it helps that my therapist reminds me!)

After some time to heal, I finally sat down and told myself, “Just write. You’re a writer, so just write!”

It’s Okay Not to Be Okay

Writing about traumatizing events is basically like reliving them.

That’s where my mind has been ever since writing about my ectopic pregnancy. It doesn’t help that our pup JuJu’s birthday and the anniversary of his passing are so close to the anniversary of the ectopic. October just hits different for me and Jason.

Luckily, I started seeing a therapist almost two years ago. It’s changed how I process my emotions for the better.

I learned that it’s okay to feel like shit and cry it out. And when you don’t, those emotions linger. And that is not okay.

Find Your Outlet

I’m not even gonna lie to you. Turning 30 has changed my mindset.

I’ve always been a perfectionist, a people-pleaser, and a worry-worm about what others think. But having been through what Jason and I have these past few years, my perspective has shifted.

(Okay, I’m still a bit of a perfectionist, and the people-pleasing doesn’t just go away overnight. It’s a millennial thing.)

I’ve learned to focus on myself, my relationship, and the family I want to build.

I started this blog to help others on a similar journey, and to make them feel less alone. But it has also been a huge benefit for me.

Writing has been healing. I may have mentioned it, but I started writing about this journey a while ago. To myself, of course.

It started as a way to express myself. But the more I wrote, the more I thought, “This could be a book someday.”

I do hope that little dream of mine will become reality, but in the meantime, I’m focusing on family and sharing snippets of wisdom through this blog. I truly hope you enjoy it!

My Idea of Self-Care

Although writing is a big part of my healing, it’s also sometimes the reason I feel the feels that I feel.

You picking up what I’m putting down? 💁🏻‍♀️

Even though writing about the emotions, feeling the feels, and crying it out helps, it doesn’t always help me feel better overall.

Here are some things I do to pick myself up when I’m feeling down.

Binging Harry Potter

Yes, I’m 30 years old and I still reread and rewatch the Harry Potter series.

It makes me happy, and I’m not ashamed of it. It’s one of those things that makes me feel like a kid again.

If you don’t have something that brings your heart joy and transports you to your happy place, all I have to say is 10/10 would recommend.

Sometimes, I mix it up and watch Fantastic Beasts or play some Hogwarts Legacy on the Xbox. 🧙

So, think about what transports you to your happy place, my dear friend. You should definitely go there more often. 

Reading

As much as I love to read Harry Potter, it’s not the only thing I read. Just most of it.

I’m a big fan of fiction, and reading can feel like “traveling for the broke.”

Don’t get me wrong, I would love to find myself in Europe, eating good food, seeing all there is to see, and eating more food.

I have yet to inherit a large sum of moola, though, and Jason won’t allow me to find a sugar daddy. Rude. 😒

But if I’m feeling a little spicy, I can always read about sugar daddies. Or just daddies. 🤫

Granny Hobbies

A couple of years ago, I ordered some embroidery kits because I wanted to give myself something to keep my hands busy while watching TV.

As much fun as scrolling on my phone was, I wanted something more productive to work on.

Eventually, I got bored of embroidery and thought about giving crocheting a shot. I had wanted to try it for some time but was scared I would suck at it.

Not to toot my own horn but I’m actually good at it. Like really good.

There are a million things you can create by crocheting, so I haven’t gotten bored of that yet.

Bubble Baths

For a while, I was taking bubble baths almost every weekend. Unfortunately, my face started breaking out so my dreams of luxurious nightly bubble baths have gone down the drain.

(Probably because of the bubble part of the bubble bath.)

But once in a while, when I’m feeling kind of yucky or I’m close to starting my period, I like to treat myself to a bath, a glass of wine, and a good book.

Treat Yo Self

It’s okay to be selfish sometimes.

We all need a reminder to take time for ourselves to be our best selves.

Nobody can feel happy-go-lucky 365 and 24/7. So, when you’re not feeling like yourself, take some time to do something that puts you in a better mindset. Go to your Hogwartshappy place.

And please share some of those things with me in the comments below so I can add them to my self-care list. 🥰

Also, don’t forget to hydrate, unclench your jaw, and fix your posture!

You’re a baddie, and I love you. 💕